Claiming back masculinity

So how the fuck did we get here?

So 23 years since Posh Spice dressed David Beckham in a skirt, men have lost their balls and willingly submitted to being the lapdog gender. As a guy in my forty's I find myself regularly embarrassed and bemused at the generations of meek males that have followed my own and find myself fighting a prejudice against my own masculinity. I'm sure I'm not the only guy in modern western society that feels like the Tiger in the zoo, denied my freedom to be the real person I am by the cage society has me trapped in, prodded and provoked by the people on the outside who know you are powerless to retaliate.

Recently i have been threatened with the sack from my job, not because of a lack of performance, not because of my ability or work rate but because of how I look. Apparently my look is intimidating. It may also be i suspect because I refuse to be bullied by anyone and women in power especially seem to take that badly.

Now I can imagine what you're thinking right now, this guys a 30 stone juicer, tattooed head to toe and has a Mowhawk on his head right? No. He works at an old people's home and is scaring the residents into an early grave? Nope. But yet he's being accused of looking intimidating?

I'm stocky yes but from my genetics, i'm no gym bunny. i have one tattoo but that's not visible when i'm wearing a shirt and tie at work. Yes my head is shaved but it has been since i went bald at 17, i decided not to go for the friar tuck look as a fashion statement. i work in the transport industry managing a warehouse, I'm polite, professional and I get results.

So what is it, where has this opinion of me come from? More importantly what makes it a credible reason to terminate someone's employment contract? Well it's a prejudicial stereotype and it's come from modern society in general.

Thing's have changed massively in the last 25 years and for the male gender changed for the worse. Seeing a masculine type man now is a rarity, we've been pushed underground into an almost sub-culture where we are seen as dinosaur's from a dying age. To look, think or act like a masculine man in every day life is frowned upon, no longer the norm or natural but aggressive and intimidating, something to be ashamed of or ridiculed.

So why have men changed? It's to be what women want them to be. A male's primary drive is to pro-create and will adapt by whatever means necessary to successfully carry out that function. Women have finally realised the power they have and are exploiting it to the full. Before you start getting out the banners and labelling me a sexist, believe me i am far from it. I just believe in equality, not repeating the old male prejudices of the past and flipping them as the new ideals of feminism.

The modern man in his 20- 30's in my experience from those i come across are emotionally weak, completely dependent on the acceptance of others and utterly confused on who they are and what their role is meant to be in the world. Their role should be whatever they want it to be, not what female society tells them it should be, but they are scared to make that decision from the fear of being shunned or humiliated, labelled unsuitable as a partner. They are willing to be whatever will be accepted by a potential mate and her peers. They either don't realise they have the option to say or don't possess the strength of character to say 'if you don't like me for what i am then that's fine, I'll wait for someone who does'......men need to take that power back.

I believe my generation and those that came before us have a role to play in saving these young lost souls. We have a responsibility to lead by example and show the younger generations what it is to be a man again, because they really do not have a clue, the genders are now so blurred.

So how do we do it? By being our true selves and believing our guts.

How many of us no longer say what we actually think, believe or feel and feel sick to the stomach for it? How many of us stick to our true convictions or beliefs under pressure? How many of us are the person we want to be, an individual not the lesser half of a couple, When was the last time we met our pals at the bar, played pool and watched sports [pre-Covid of course] over a few beers like our fathers and grandfathers did? How many of us forfeit the 5 litre V8 for the 5 door SUV, how many of us are dressed by our fucking wives for God's sake, go on diets and aspire to be the guy on the front cover of GQ magazine? What example are we setting, that society is equal or that one gender has the balls of the other in their hand?

As men we have a responsibility to reclaim our masculinity, not to take control but to say yes we are different from the female gender but we are equally valuable and worthy, we deserve our place at society's table on even terms not as the hired help.